Overheard a father making his daughter take out a second pair of earrings. Apparently in his opinion the difference between a girl who looks appropriate and a girl that looks trashy is one earring or two earrings per ear. “I said, take them out. I don’t like the way that looks” the poor girl looked more embarrassed than mad.
Couple things you’re doing here dad.
1.) You’re teaching your daughter that a man figure who really cares about her will want to control what she wears.
2.) You’re teaching her that how she dresses, not who she is and decisions she makes, sets expectations from the public. While this is true in our patriarchal, victim blaming society, you’re choosing to be part of the problem instead of part of the solution.
Dad’s your job is to raise a confident, strong adult woman, not a perfect teenager. You represent “A good man” and often what your daughter will look for in a future husband. You CAN be a strong father figure without being controlling and unyielding. You can set an example for how women should expect from a good man by treating all the women in your life the way you want your daughter to be treated.
BE the culture you want for your children.